Who Will Love Me? – Sometimes You Just Have to Let Go

It is heartbreaking to see friends or loved ones who are in agony or who continually make decisions that hurt, wound and cripple their ability to move forward.

It hurts to know that no matter how much wisdom you share or how many encouraging words you speak, the decision to leave or end any present suffering lies mostly with the person–it’s not your decision. Selena, it’s not your decision.

So, you cry–in agony for their gaping, open wounds–because they cannot. You pray–for wisdom and healing–because they will not. And you listen–even though it hurts you something fierce–because at the end of the day, you’d rather they let it go (even a little) than cave in or implode.

Hurt. Pain. Suffering. It’s real. It exists and sometimes even though we are our own worst enemy, it’s important to know that there are people who love us, who cry for us and who bleed with us long after we decide to return to our cycle of pain and torment.

It’s time for those of us who carry your pain within us to walk away–if only for a time–we’re human just like you. But don’t ever think we’ve stopped caring. And when you find yourself asking “who will love me?” Consider this answer.

Finding the Drive to Move Beyond Fear – Why I Hired a Coach to Teach Me How

Moving Beyond Fear – Why I Hired a Coach to Teach Me How

If you’ve taken a look at my site, you’ll notice that I talk a great deal about living your dreams and about making good choices and never turning back. In fact you could say that based on my average post, I have the drive to move beyond fear, bunker down and roll with the punches. {heck, I thought that too}. So what happened? Nothing. I finally came to realization that in order to have something I’ve never had, I’ve got to do something that I’ve never done!

I have the education, the experience and the determination. I have the support of friends, family and mentors. I even have my very own tailor-made cheerleading section (my children). So what was my problem? In a word, fear.

It’s wasn’t the kind of fear I used to wrestle with–the kind that stifles and overwhelms you with so much anxiety and hopelessness that you literally become paralyzed. This fear was different. It was the kind that concedes that you CAN do or accomplish the thing you desire while simultaneously saying it just wasn’t possible. Like saying, oh you can be a writer but what kind of writer are you if you’re not a best seller, if you’re not writing for the New Yorker? Or how about this one: sure you can be an encourager of mothers, women and men, but how effective are you if you’re not reaching mass groups of people? How effective do you even think you can be? You see my dilemma?  A new level of fear required a new level of weapon and for me, my weapon of choice was Marjorie Bostwick.

Not only was she warm, engaging and ridiculously resourceful and effective, her Visualization and Who Do You Think You Are Tools were mind-opening and truth revealing techniques helping me to put my desires, goals and fears in perspective. Notice, how I didn’t say she told me what to do? Or that she gave me advice on what to do? She helped ME find the answer that I’ve carried inside me all along. Using her Pre-paving tools  and Passion Tests helped me to be honest about my desires and fears, realize their underlying source and create a vision or path that will take me beyond them. So, are you cured? Did it work?

Ha! You’re so cute. The only cure to fear is doing what you desire in spite of it. Having the faith or the belief that you can do something without actually DOING the thing you want to do, is highly ineffective and destitute of power and life. Simply put, faith without works is dead. I wish I could tell you that fear doesn’t raise its ugly voice spewing venom in so many ways. I can’t. But I can say that thanks to Marjorie, I’m armed with the tools I need to silence that fear one step at a time.

Am I moving as fast as I’d like? No, but I’m MOVING! And because I’m moving, doors are opening and opportunities are presenting themselves. Coincidence? Not a chance.

I’m doing things I’ve never done to get the things I want to have. I am worth the investment and truth be told, so are you. Now, what do plan to do about the fear in your life?

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It’s NEVER too Late to Start Living YOUR Dreams!

It’s NEVER too late to start living your dreams. NEVER! Your insight, creativity & sheer ingenuity are missing. You have a place in this world, for the sake of us all, take it.

Your Dreams Can Become a Reality!

I always have the good fortune to share the nuggets of wisdom that I’ve learned in my thirty-six years on the earth. Whether those nuggets are about hair–which I can talk for hours about or conduct tutorials on how to take care of many different types of hair–or learning to overcome the every day hurtles of life, one of the most relevant nuggets I’ve amassed is believing that dreams can be a reality!

It’s HARD work making a dream come true. Not because of lack of finances, funding or even a decent business plan. No. The real battle isn’t fought on paper, at the bank or even with a sponsor. The real battle is fought inside you–specifically, inside your mind. It doesn’t matter if you have the perfect plan for your dream, without believing that it will happen–that you can do it–your dream will remain what it is now, a thought.

See, it takes more than a plan or vision for your life to make a dream tangible. It takes more than prayer or speaking positivity into your life for the unseen to manifest itself. What’s missing and what’s needed isn’t based on the things YOU can do, it’s based on the things you WILL do. Will you still believe it’s possible when you look at your situation and it seems more barren than it did yesterday? Will you still believe when it becomes more of an inconvenience than you thought? Will you still move forward when obstacles shoot up from the ground trying to cut you off at every turn?

It wasn’t easy for me to be a single Mom after having been married for so many years. It definitely wasn’t easy to say I’d go back to school to live out my dream of being a published author and accomplished writer. It wasn’t easy to continue to believe I’d have a future and a hope especially when everything around me seemed so bleak and dead. But I did. I never stopped trying to reach for it; never stopped believing I’d get there. Sure, I’d fall victim to doubt and rubber-necking (looking back at what was), but the funny thing about a dream is it never lets you settle for the placebo.

Your insight creativity and sheer ingenuity are missing. If you don’t do what you’re supposed to do, how can we? Start with this:

• Dreams can be a reality but you’ve got to work at it everyday. Write down what you hope to accomplish short term (3 weeks to 6 months; 7 months to 2 years) and long term (2.5 years to 5 years).
• Speak life, not doubt. We already know all the things that we can’t do or don’t have, so try speaking all the things that you will do and want to see happen. There is power in what you say.
• Start now, right where you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re 25 or 55, start where you are. Don’t compare yourself to those around you. No one has walked in your shoes. You are who you are and right now is as good a time as any to start making your dreams come true.
• Surround yourself with like-minded people. Nothing destroys dreams faster than those who have no dreams of their own. If you have to find new friends, do it. If you have to spend less time with family members, do it. It’s impossible to swim with an anchor tied to your leg.

You do have a place in this world. Some one is waiting for what you have to offer. You’ve kept it to yourself long enough. Now, get up. Dust yourself off. And get to making your dream a reality!

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